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Can You Look Yourself in the Eye and Say "I Love You"

Updated: Nov 27, 2020

Do you think it’s selfish to take care of yourself first?

Or do you see it as a necessity?

In my RTT practice, I use hypnosis to help people find the root cause, that underlying issue from their past, that created a belief which is causing issues in their life today.

The number one issue people have is they don’t think they are good enough. That could be smart enough, pretty enough, good enough to be someone’s friend. They don’t feel worthy of love or good things to come into their life.

The truth is we were all born knowing we are worthy, that we are enough. As a baby we demanded to be fed, to be taken care of. We knew we would get our needs met and we did. There was someone who did take care of us or we wouldn’t be here today. We also had the strength to keep trying new things and never give up. That’s how we learned to walk, talk, feed ourselves and dress ourselves. Where would we be today without that determination, without that belief in ourselves?

Somewhere along the line most of us started to feel unworthy, that we weren’t good enough. Maybe it started when you were the last one picked to be on a kickball team or you didn’t get invited to a birthday party. Whatever it was, we’ve all been there.

If we continue to believe we are not worthy we start to spiral down a path we don’t want to be on. We created beliefs that we needed to take care of everyone else’s needs before our own. We observed our parents do this as they provided for their family without considering their needs. We need to take care of ourselves first.

To some that may sound selfish. That’s just another belief you picked up along the way. There are some who only look out for their own interest but that’s an issue for another blog.

I’m talking about the kind of self-love where you take care of yourself; you eat properly, you exercise, get the rest you need and respect yourself so that you have the energy to give love and help others. It's taking the time to do the things you really enjoy doing. It also helps you to feel deserving of the love that others offer to you. It’s a win, win situation.

Are you able to look into the mirror and say “I love you”?

Try it. Look yourself in the eyes and say

“I love you”

“You are enough just the way you are”

“You are amazing”

It may feel awkward at first but it’s true. You are enough. You are worthy of love, of good things in your life.

Try it for 7 days and see how it feels. Are you starting to believe in yourself? Can you feel the love sinking in?

I believe in you.

If you have any interest in an RTT session with me or have questions, you can contact me at


Pam Bohlken is a Best Selling Author, Reiki Master, certified Vibrational Sound Therapy Practitioner and Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner using hypnosis. She performs Sound Meditations using her beautiful Himalayan Singing Bowls. She is helping her clients release stress in their bodies to promote healing in body, mind and soul.

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